Using Questions to Manage Your Mindset Creates
A Continual State of Discovery
The problem is, too many people get comfortable in their day-to-day patterns and allow lazy thinking to creep into and take over their norms.
Worse, they might unconsciously fall into self-talk patterns of complaining or arguing with reality, instead of using that same time for creative thought and goal-driven questions.
Asking yourself daily or weekly questions to motivate action toward your goals is a terrific attitude habit. If you enjoy journaling, writing the date, the question, and then jotting down your daily thoughts throughout the week in response to the question could be useful.
What are you thinking about?
What is the impact of your thoughts on your over-all well-being and goal achievement?
This article is an excerpt from Catherine Goggia’s book, “LIVE IT! Mastering Positive Attitude Habits – 15 Practical Tips for Managing Your Mindset:
In this section I share some of the questions I’ve used during individual coaching sessions to assist clients in achieving clarity about their next steps toward increased job satisfaction and productivity, and work/life balance. When clients aren’t creating happy and healthy lives outside of their jobs, getting balance is important so they can stop blowing things out of proportion at work.
I recommend you review this questions list, and highlight the questions that spark your interest most at this time. Sparking your interest can range from, “Hummm,” to “What a great question, I’ve never thought about that before,” to “I don’t want to think about that right now!”
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If you aren’t asking enough questions, you aren’t putting yourself in a constant state of learning. You’re making decisions based on what is already known. You aren’t building a knowledge back on which to build your goals.
Here are some question examples from my coaching list. For a free downloadable and printable PDF of this article, send me an email request from my website:
- What am I grateful for?
- How have I recently demonstrated an open-mind for new ideas?
- What’s going on when I feel I’m at my best?
- How can I create ‘my best’ more often by creating the state of being and circumstances that set me up to be at my best?
- When I’m at my best, people will take notice and opportunities will open up for me. How can I prepare for my success?
- If I were at my best, what would I do right now?
- What do I want in my personal life? (Refer back to your wheel of life chart).
- What do I want in my work life? (Refer back to your wheel of life chart).
- When am I able to laugh at myself? (This is a very important question for people who take themselves too seriously!)
- How would I describe the person I am being when I’m living in my highest potential? (Consider temperament and personality traits as well as skills and contributions).
- What can I do to motivate myself daily?
- What are my most common excuses for doing less than my best?
- When did I start using those excuses?
- Why did I start using those excuses?
- What options do I have that I haven’t taken advantage of?
- (Regarding options you haven’t pursued) What am I waiting for?
- What have I wanted to do and haven’t done?
- What is my plan for doing it?
- Where is fear holding me back?
- What would have to happen for me to believe my life has been worth living? (Maybe it’s already happened! This is one of my favorite questions).
- Where am I too hard on myself? (Perfectionists, this is a priority question).
- Where am I too hard on the people in my personal life?
- Where do I have unrealistic expectations of my coworkers?
- How am I having a positive, negative or neutral impact this week?
- How can I have more fun in my personal life?
- What makes me laugh out loud?
- How do I make each of my family members feel special?
- What negative words do I need to stop using?
- What positive words can I use more often to help me manage my mindset?
- What successful person(s) has behaviors I can model?
- What are the specific behaviors I will model consistently and long enough for them to become habits of my own?
- What would happen if I let go of regrets and guilt?
- Who do I need to be in order to attract or continue being attractive to the type of partner I want in my life?
- Would the people who really know me describe me as a happy person? Why or why not?
- What do I need in order to feel loved?
- What are the main actions I take to demonstrate love?
- (If anger is a daily pattern) Why am I angry? Note: anger is often masking fear, so it might be helpful to think about what you are afraid of. For example, if you are overly controlling, what are you afraid will happen if someone else is in control of a situation? Can anger be habit forming? Yes; especially if unhealthy anger patterns were enabled in your youth.
Another approach you might consider is getting more specific when you demonstrate anger: what are you ACTUALLY feeling that is expressed as anger? Disappointment? Confusion? Surprise?
- How does anger serve me? (What needs do I meet through demonstrating anger?)
- How could I get those needs met in healthy ways? Another way I sometimes ask about anger is: what if you could no longer get your needs met through anger – what would you do?
- Related to anger is defensiveness. Recently a training participant had the courage to approach me and share her frustration about how her facial expression and body language gives off the impression she is angry. She asked the question, “How can I change how I look?” We had a brief discussion about how her defensiveness shows up in her body language. We talked a little bit about how, what I referred to as, “That defensive chip in the brain,” first developed, how that defensiveness helped her move through difficulty, and how that defensiveness no longer serves her. “Thank you defensiveness, for protecting me during that time. I no longer need you, so I will dismantle this defensive chip in my brain.” Dismantle it. Erase it. Use whatever metaphor works for you, but recognize how defensiveness limits your relationships and productivity. And yes, with awareness and practice, you CAN change the way you “look”, which is really about how you come across to others.
The book includes questions for career and contribution, limiting beliefs and supporting beliefs, and illustrations.
Get the book and start asking the questions that will inspire action toward your life goals:
LIVE IT! is more than passing thoughts as you think about these questions. Tap into the tenacity required for deep dive answers which, when fully formed, link to your wheel of life and vision.